Newly Wed

"It would be better to live in a tent than live with mom and dad as newly weds."-Elder Dallin H. Oaks of the Quorum of the 12 apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Being a newly wed is hard-for quite a few reasons. But it would appear that figure things out on your own with your spouse is healthy for you. It is important to build a relationship with your spouse during these difficult beginning times and establish your own family of origin (rather than re-establishing your relationship with your parents. Getting married is a big deal. And it's hard. But being there for your partner is important.
    It's been shown that on average, the overall happiness of a married couple goes down after each child is born. We can only imagine why-having a baby is hard! They are a huge handful. But it doesn't have to bring your joy down as a couple. There are a few key things we can do to prevent unsatisfaction in a marriage when having kids. Involve each other. If you are the wife, make your husband a part of everything that has to do with the baby. Take him to all your check ups and let him know what's going on. Make him a part of the milestones-the month marks, when the baby kicks, etc. After all, it's his baby too. Often couples will start to feel distant. The work load gets bigger for mom and dad. Remember that this will be hard for both of you. Also, you are still married. Having kids doesn't change that. Make sure to pay attention to your spouse's needs. Be there for each other.
    Being married isn't easy, but through communication and involvement, things could be made easier.

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